The Fixer.
When you were younger, there was likely a lack of steady leadership in your family, so you stepped in – becoming the one people rely on.
As a cycle-breaker, the Fixer tries to transform the future by “fixing” loved one’s problems – grandparents, parents, siblings, and children. This can look like mediating conflicts, managing practical issues (calls, money, logistics), or coaching family members through emotions and decisions.
You tend to have a lot of energy and have accomplished a lot you can be proud of. You’re capable, brave, thoughtful, generous, and a great leader. The world is truly a better place because you’re in it.
Over time, this role takes a toll on you. You may…
• Have difficulty relaxing or focusing on your own life
• Feel weary of carrying so much responsibility
• Feel frustrated that others don’t step up – or don’t meet your standards when they do
• Be disconnected from your own emotions (staying in action feels more productive)
• Feel like support either isn’t there when you need it – or you can’t truly receive it when it is
The Fixer is a cycle-breaker who carries the wellbeing of the whole family line on their own shoulders – and that’s more than one person was ever meant to carry. If left unaddressed, children and grandchildren may also begin to mirror this over-responsibility and feel saddled with generations of burdens that are too big for them.
There’s more to your story,
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I’ve been a Family & Systemic Constellation facilitator, somatic therapist, and women’s circle facilitator for over 20 years.
I’ve supported thousands of clients and students across five continents – including New York Times best-selling authors, executives of major corporations, celebrity families, leading business coaches, and renowned healers.
It’s so meaningful to me to help women understand the deeper patterns shaping their lives and families, so they can become unburdened, and live freer, happier, more satisfying lives.
Remember to check your inbox over the coming days, as I will be sending out more resources and insights specific to your cycle-breaker role.
And as always, don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or to share what has resonated with you.
Warmly,
Lexi